Hey, just remind me that I no longer have to worry about the fact that my ex-fiance, whom dumped me two and a half months ago, is marrying a high school dropout who has no job and is too lazy/proud to find one. Just remind me that I'm moving and going to a comparativaly dream job. God, I need whatever help I can get right now, cos she's still the only girl I've ever loved, and I can't see this as anything other than a mistake. I just want someone else to tell me this isn't my mistake to worry about. Thanks for reading, sorry if it's a downer.
"I'm bi a lot of things, but lingual's not one of them."
Depending on how old you are... there's always more fish in the sea. Save up in your dream job, then be that Pimp Daddy you know you can be!
Seriously... don't go looking for love -- love comes to you.
Just remember that in a few months you'll be like me, doing the happy dance when you find out your ex is poor and had her car broken into for the third time in a month. Seriously, if that's what she's looking for in a guy, be glad you're not with her anymore, as the fact that you're literate enough to get on the internet would already seem to put you way out of her league.
You never know when you'll meet that special someone... the someone that's mysteriously blind to your flaws. or, you know, stupid enough not to realize that yes, you really are that cynical.
Holy shit, does your situation remind me of my own. My ex left me for a no job loser (who used to be my best buddy, until she left me for him) who sells weed for beer money and still lives with his dad and two little brothers in a shithole in rural Maine. I, on the other hand, just moved to Denver, the coolest city ever, and am having a great time. It's been a year since she left, though, so I have a little more perspective on the situation. I am now dating a chick who is really hot, smarter and better in bed than my ex, and she and her new man are living a shitty white-trash, welfare, no-job existence. I was bitter for a while, but now I realize that my life is infinitely more exciting and rewarding than hers, and I'm looking forward to seeing her in the supermarket someday, all fat and trashy, with three kids, buying spam with food stamps and picking a wedgie out of her pink sweat pants.
In retrospect, her leaving me was a good thing. My life has gone to some cool places since then, as opposed to the three years of nothing I spent with her. Just start dating and clubbing. Find a cute girl to fuck a few times a week and enjoy your new job. In a while you'll be able to look back and laugh. She may seem like the only woman you'll ever love now, but just wait until you find a few more. Shit, I was so depressed after my girl ran out that I didn't leave my apartment for weeks. I just sent my buddies out with my ATM card to bring me beer, watched WWF and felt sorry for myself. Shit, you're doing better than I was. It does get better, I swear to God. In a while, you'll be able to realize that she fucked herself over, not you.
Mmm... I kinda know where you're going, Jake. The first girl that ever seemed to reciprocate my feelings for her? After telling me the only reason she kissed me was because she felt sorry for me (this was when I was 15), she dropped out (after finally getting past freshman year on her third try) and moved in with some guy. Haven't heard from her since. I went on to have my share of fun in the past three years of college. Can't say I miss her or anything... then again, it kinda helps that my school is a magnet for hotties from New Jersey and Long Island. Very high girl/guy ratio, too.
I think everyone has had the one girl or girls that broke their heart.... and made decisions to be with someone we dont understand. It gets better though. If she wants to be treated bad and have someone thats a lot less of a person then you... its her loss. You'll find a better girl. Trust me.
I've torn myself apart.... and tried to figure out why... but the only answer i was ever given... that really fits..... is the fact... that women are crazy.
Yeah, it's like, I'll know I'll be fine, but I still can't help but worry about her future. I know what she wanted, I know she's not happy, unless she blatantly lies to her best friend (whom I'm still really close friends with), and I know she won't be happy with this guy. I don't know why she married him. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
On the other hand, this board really is filled with standup folks. Thanks. ~nhg
"I'm bi a lot of things, but lingual's not one of them."
Originally posted by JakegnosisI, on the other hand, just moved to Denver, the coolest city ever, and am having a great time. It's been a year since she left, though, so I have a little more perspective on the situation. I am now dating a chick who is really hot, smarter and better in bed than my ex, and she and her new man are living a shitty white-trash, welfare, no-job existence.
It's like I've always said...Moving to Denver solves EVERYTHING.
And Saruman, you can't be responsible for how other people decide to live their lives. If they want to dig themselves a hole, nothing you can say will change that. I tried with this girl, and it was useless. All you can do is hope they'll come to their senses before it's too late, or revel in their idiocy. I revel. I don't feel bad that way.
Good first post there, Jake. Just thought I should congratulate you.
And btw, I have a friend who was, at one time, sort of on the other side of the equation from most of you - he was the going-nowhere guy who got the girl. They ended up having a kid, and my friend got into the Army to support them. He's been in Korea for the last few months, and now we start to find out that the stupid bitch he married has been cheating on him, had cheated on him before they got married, and has blown through all his money (in the neighborhood of 20 large) in about 6 months, all the while being a shitty, abusive, psychotic parent and family member. So it's also entirely possible that these girls fall onto shitty men because they themselves are nothing but trash. You just weren't around long enough to find it out.
Or not, I don't know, but there's always something better right around the corner.
Hey, I just thought I'd add my two cents. Yeah, the girl I'm in love with is now dating a really shitty guy too, but I have the benefit of still being her boyfriend at the time! WOO! Heh, open relationships man.... they're wacky Anyway, in order to make things work out while we're both off at different colleges we've opened up our dating life and can now have multiple relationships. So she decided to test it out with a friend of hers who's been hitting on her nonstop for years. Well, turns out the guy doesn't turn off his "Asshole Charm" even when he's in a relationship. He's managed to piss off my GF all the time, and yet she hasn't dumped his ass. Boggles my mind.
-Jag
Most likely it's because she's spends most of her time having fun with me, and so doesn't really care enough to try and breakup with the asshole.
"You gotta hate somebody before this is over. Them, me, it doesn't matter."
"Hate, who do I hate? You tell me."
"Who do you love?"
-Wintermute to Case in William Gibson's Neuromancer
Turn your eyes away if you have squeemish stomachs:
She's in the hospital now, having been married yesterday. She chugged a bottle of sleeping pills. She left a note saying "I'm breaking up with you Matt. I love you nhg (me)." I don't know if she's going to be okay or not, and I'm leaving town tomorrow for a week. Crying is okay, right?
"I'm bi a lot of things, but lingual's not one of them."
Holy shit, Saruman, that is the most awful thing I've heard in a long time. I truly hope she's OK. She definitely has some serious shit to deal with- I hope she can get some help, and hopefully get away from that worthless son of a bitch. Try checking in with the hospital by phone while you're away so you don't go mad with worry. And, yes, crying is fine. Those are extreme damn circumstances, and in this case all that tough guy shit can go right out the fucking window. You and her have my support, for whatever that's worth.
Originally posted by JubukiGood first post there, Jake. Just thought I should congratulate you.
And to think, I live only a few miles away from cybernetically enhanced monkies.... http://www.cnn.com/2003/TECH/science/10/13/monkey.brains.reut/index.html WASHINGTON (Reuters) -- Dr.