I have been madly in love with this girl since the 5th grade. This year I told her that I loved her. The promblem is is that now she ignores me whenever I talk to her in school. What's worst is I think she is with my worst emeny. I really love her and know that we are meant to be together, and I think she feels the same way.(She loves talking to me on the phone) What should I do? If a girl ignores you after you tell her you love her, does that mean she loves you too?
If you had the balls to tell her you love her in the first place and she loves talking to you on the phone so much, I dont see why you cant just ASK her why she ignores you, and while you're at it, ask her how she feels about you. I happen think it has something to do with the fact that you told her you love her even though she has a boyfriend (allegedly). If he goes to the same school with you guys or even has semi-close friends that go there, it would most likely make her feel uncomfortable/awkward around you, especially if you and her BF are "worst enemies". Even if she feels the same way about you, most girls not on TV wont dump the guy they're already with just because another guy they like/love comes along.
If a girl ignores you after you tell her you love her, does that mean she loves you too?
This does remind me of this girl I was "going out" with in school. We would talk on the phone constantly and talk about how much we loved each other. The thing is we never would talk to each other at school, and we never saw each other out of school. Of course I was in grade 8 at the time. I got sick of her and dumped her for a younger chick.
Don't believe anything you hear, and only half of what you see.
Aw man, even on the phone I can't do that "lovey dovey shit". I basically just rip the piss outta the woman. It works well 95% of the time but sometimes I can hit a nerve.
And ladies and gentlemen, that is where the "lovey dovey shit" has to be said sadly.
But I don't give a fuck, I get free VIP tickets to all of Ireland's soccer games due to her father's awesome occupation. Hell I can get whatever I want off her father because, I *suuuuch* a lovely chap.
I have found that many 'phone' relationships that consist of lovey dovey talk hardly ever translate into real-time vodoo sweat.
I spent my last two years in high school with a girl... Because we lived in The Middle Of Nowhere, with no cars, we more or less were stuck with the phone. And GOOD LORD did she like to abuse that!
The problem was, she liked to do the lovey dovey talk for hours at a time. And at age 15 or whatever I wasn't about to tell her to piss off. The end of the conversations was what I dreaded the most where she'd want to play that "I love you... I love you..." over and OVER for 15 minutes!
Since then, I've been more or less anti-phone with anyone I've been with. My relationship consists of Seeing Her or Not Seeing Her. A 10 minute phone call on days we're apart is fine, just to say hi or whatever.
But I've become REALLY soured on the phone since that time.
And strangely enough, 210 is dead on. It resulted in VERY LITTLE voodoo sweat, as he so gently put it. No problems since I've become insistant the phone does NOT become our relationship.
I had a long phone relationship due to ending up in a relationship with someone who lived very far away. And it did end up in a lot of voodoo sweat for a while. After a while though even the voodoo sweating wasn't enough to make it work, since it's so much easier to annoy each other in person.
I'd at least ask her why she's ignoring you. Maybe she's doing it on purpose. Maybe she's not. Whatever she says, try to play it cool. If she says she has been ignoring you, don't give her the satisfaction of knowing how much she's hurt you.
Maybe she's stunned by the revelation and just needs some time to digest it. Or maybe she's playing hard to get. Bottom line is, my man, if you want this girl, you gotta let her know how you feel. If she rejects you, you'll get over it. You're young, and there are 3.5 billion other women on the planet.
Believe me, if I could've told the one that I loved how I felt about her, I would've felt a lot better. Even if she'd completely ripped my heart out. At least then I would know whether or not she's interested. The worst thing is not knowing-- you'll be spending the rest of your life wondering what could have been.
Originally posted by Tha Puerto RicanI have been madly in love with this girl since the 5th grade. This year I told her that I loved her. The promblem is is that now she ignores me whenever I talk to her in school. What's worst is I think she is with my worst emeny. I really love her and know that we are meant to be together, and I think she feels the same way.(She loves talking to me on the phone) What should I do? If a girl ignores you after you tell her you love her, does that mean she loves you too?
I'm guessing you're in high school by now. If that's the case, a big factor in her ignoring you may be the circles (or "cliqs") in which you travel. Is it well-known that you're a pro-wrestling fan? It's not an obsession that transfers well to girls (unless they're forced to grow up with it, like I was). As such, she may not be yet willing to admit that she likes a boy with such an obsession, as it would cost her major face within her cliq (and let me tell you, girls can be BRUTAL with their censure). It's not considered an "upper-level" interest, like cars, sports, or certain types of music. Publicly associating with someone with non-prime interests can cost the girl major face - she may not yet be ready to cost herself such standing. She can talk to you on the phone because it's private, and nobody else has to know how you feel for each other.
If you told her in front of her cliq that you loved her, or her cliq knows about it, you may not hear back from her for *months*. Not only did you admit your love for her - which takes a while to process under the best circumstances - if her cliq knows about it, she has to deal with the political fallout of that within her cliq. To use a wrestling analogy, think HHH after the Madison Square Garden incident, with Vince McMahon as the head of the cliq. Remember how long it took HHH to get his push back? It may take similarly long for her to talk to you in public again.
DJ - if he confronts her again publicly, pressures on her may be such that she can't give him an honest answer. Additionally, if she's still on the outs with her cliq, this could be a crushing blow. Imagine if HHH had committed another major kayfabe break right after the MSG incident - Vince would have crushed him.
Give her time, Puerto Rican.
P.S. "Voodoo sweat"? Ick.
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Yeah, DJ Frosty Freeze (best name EVER) and Stephanie are right as rain. Whatchu gotta do, brother, is simply call her up (since you guys are best buds on the phone) and straighten things out. And yeah, I agree with 201, if this is a primarily a phone relationship, very little voodoo sweat will result. Believe me, I know... *Sniff*
I find it amusing that you come to a (primarily) wrestling board for love advice. That said...
Follow the lead of your favorite wrestler. Drug her and go to a drive-through wedding chapel. If that doesn't work, just threaten to put her through a table, and challenge her current man to a fight at Wrestlemania. Odds are she'll turn on him in mid-match.
Finally, after all these years of spending way too much money to make sure everyone in our family got a trinket from everyone else, our extended family decided to draw names this year for the grown-ups. Pretty sweet, right?