I only go down there once a year for work now, so I'm sure others will have better answers than me, but if you want to spend the money, The US National Whitewater Center (usnwc.org) is a fun place to go. They have different packages there that you can purchase. Good way to kill a half day.
And I don't know any soul food places in Charlotte but if you like BBQ, then Mac's (macspeedshop.com) is pretty decent.
Silly stuff. It's amazing how willing people are to bear their dirty laundry when sitting behind a keyboard. Does OKCupid always work like this for quick hook-ups, or were you on the forum for a different reason?