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|AIM: || ||#21 Posted on 27.4.02 2257.21 |
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| chuckc14's method worked for me (almost). I'm a sophomore, I'm decently good looking (so I've been told) and I haven't had one girlfriend until about a month ago. I got wind she liked me, so I asked her to the movies and we took it from there. Mind you, I'm not banging her (I don't plan to, either. Just having a relationship is enough for me), we're just hanging out at parties and such things. Zim is right, too. We both care about each other, and want to have a good, long relationship. That's all it takes.|
Now, my problem is the lack of experience I have in dating. I learned to just be honest, and talk to her about it. My lack of coversation skills is also a downer, but we're both becoming closer, and it's getting easier.
You've really just gotta slow down and think things through. Why do you like this girl? Because she's physically attractive? Because she's so intangible? Find someone who you like for who they are instead. Take life slowly. That's the best advice I've ever been given.
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|AIM: || ||#22 Posted on 27.4.02 2332.58 |
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Originally posted by PalpatineW
I know no one's suggested this, but it's probably not the wisest course getting relationship advice from a wrestling message board.
There goes my advice about waiting until she has a boyfriend, becoming his good friend then turning heel on him.
Seriously though, my best advice? Stay calm, stay patient. There are ALOT of people who are 15 who aren't going on dates. In fact, it's probably better NOT to have one, yes I know, hormones and all that, but frankly, your best dating years are ahead of you, so loosen up.
Not advice you want to hear, I'm sure, but not all advice is supposed to be pleasant. All this focusing on girls isn't unhealthy, but it is unproductive (trust me I know).
Otherwise, it's better to resign yourself to one of the strategies listed above (you may not get EXACTLY what you wanted but it will likely be much easier for you), than to force yourself into a situation that you (from your posts anyway) don't seem prepared for. That makes for some uncomfortable and probably highly unenjoyable dates.
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|#23 Posted on 28.4.02 1615.20 |
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| The science fair conversation was a start..you said some things besides just Hi and hmm maybe you have a chance to find out what she enjoys in school and for fun.|
I know getting the phone number might put you in that comfort zone where you can open up and say things to her, just like posting on this board...that's great if she has an internet hobby or likes talking on the phone...but anyways you have an in-person relationship to work on with the eye contact, what words to say, sharing your interests, and how to react.
What's scary for me is that years later the type of women you will like at your schools, workplace or social places, and even in television and the media, they all resemble the girls you liked back in jr. high and high school.
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|#24 Posted on 29.4.02 0048.16 |
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| Trust me, guy, these things work out. I had a long dry spell (14 months) after a 2-week long craptacular relationship with the village bicycle...and look at me now! My close female friend & I got closer...and now we're going out. These things work out... Mmm...females...|
And frequent masturbation DOES help. Believe me.
|Tha Puerto Rican
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|AIM: || ||#25 Posted on 8.5.02 2217.01 |
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| BOO-YAH! I got the balls to ask for the new girl's number and I got it. Only one promblem, she has a boyfriend who tough and big and strong and who's my friend and could kick my scrawny little weak ass. He knows I like her but took no exception to it. (I don't know why) He could if I call her.|
I'm still going to call her anyway despite risking breaking several bones and ribs and losing a friendship.
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|AIM: || ||#26 Posted on 8.5.02 2228.07 |
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| All it means is that she'll say "I love you let's get married" and keep saying it for about, oh, ten months or so, and then she'll say "I can't stand it when you're depressed, I don't ever want to see you again." Oh, wait, I'm bitter. |
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|#27 Posted on 8.5.02 2328.59 |
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| First off, congratulations on getting the phone number. Many guys twice your age still can't get enough Spaldings to ask a girl that they like for her number, and thus blow a great opportunity. Having said that, move on. She has a boyfriend who's also your friend, and to pursue this beyond friendship is asking for a world of hurt, physically and emotionally. Trust me when I say that it isn't worth it. Keep talking to other girls, work on your conversation skills, maintain eye contact, and stop staring at the breasts. Show you're confident, and the girls will take note. |
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|#28 Posted on 9.5.02 1040.26 |
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| One thing I can recommend...Under no circumstances is it OK to tell her you we're the May 9th (randomly selected) Wiener of the Day from Wienerville. Just trust me on this one.|
Another thing you should always remember...
BROS BEFORE HOS
Chicks will screw you over and not think twice about it, but your boys, your TRUE friends, are always there to get you drunk and take you to the nudie bar when you need it most. If you are in fact friends with this chick's boyfriend, do not pursue her any further unless you want to look like a backstabbing dick not only to him, but others who are close to you.
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|AIM: || ||#29 Posted on 9.5.02 1110.53 |
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| Pay no attention to chuckc14. Chicks will fall all over themselves to hang on your johnson now that you are THE Wiener Of The Day! My advice is get a t-shirt printed to commemorate the occasion and wear it everywhere you go. You'll have to get a big stick to beat all the women away. |
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|#30 Posted on 9.5.02 1319.52 |
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| I totally agree with the "Bros before Hos." That's the golden rule until you get married.|
Now, from it seems like so far, this isn't the last chick your going to fall for. So my recommendation is to leave this one alone (unless you get bitten by a radioactive spider and end up able to beat the boyfriend up).
Honestly, you live in New York. I can tell you, there are a TON of hot chicks in New York. It's not like your in Buttfuck, Nebraska with 200 people and 5 hot chicks, and you have to dance with the sheep at the prom. It's also not like Chicago, where everyone for some reason seems to be ugly. There are hot chicks all over the place, and at least one of the 4 million females in town is going to be willing to get it on with you. And you'll probably discover one of them next week.
If you had enough cojones to ask this chick for her number, you have enough to ask the next chick for hers. In the meantime, try to get some experience with an ugly, slutty chick (you know you know a few). Just remember to wrap that Jimmy.
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|AIM: || ||#31 Posted on 9.5.02 1344.30 |
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Originally posted by MoeGates
It's also not like Chicago, where everyone for some reason seems to be ugly.
Now them's be fighting words. You can mock our sports teams, laugh at our weather, abuse our struggling modern art community, that's all fine. But picking on the fine wimmenfolk of Chi-town, that gets me riled up something fierce. Why you gotta go and do something like that?
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|#32 Posted on 9.5.02 1417.18 |
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| 3 rules for involving women:|
Rule #1: This actually applies all through life. It doesn't matter how cool, sweet, pretty, whatever they are, at their base they are evil. It's not their fault, they just are. Don't be surprised if she or any other find a way to make you loathe them and love them at the same time, this is their special gift. Why? Girls are evil.
Rule #2: Don't be that guy who takes an engagement ring on the first date just in case. Sure she's all you can think about when you first meet her, hormones are like that. Be realistic, those character quirks that drive you nuts about her given a month or two may actually drive you to want to kill yourself or others. Don't be too serious too fast.
Rule #3: Be the nice guy. It doesn't work for me either, but someone out there, somewhere in the world it can't always be the guys who constantly dog on girls and be utter asses who get all the girls attention. Maybe you'll be the lucky one.
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|#33 Posted on 10.5.02 1038.39 |
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Corrupting a minor is against the law.
Why don't you just get a nice book? Shouldn't you be out playing basketball?
Take it to email man. Or get an instant messenger. I don't want to get sued when your mom reads this board one day after you've gone off and joined a convent or something.
Seriously - a wrestling board is NOT a good place to get love advice. I don't recommend looking for help here. Consider this an official lack of endorsement.
Anyone who wants to help this guy, send him a private message and trade email. I'm not going to keep these threads open any longer.
Hope you can respect my wishes so we don't have problems.
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